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I Am Not Afraid at All – Wherefore in fact?

It sounds so easy and almost ‘endearing’ when people say to a client in coaching or counseling – if you don’t like something, you change your reaction. Or, we will help you to change your reaction against this – we will help you to learn it – to condition you. 

In my executive coaching practice, I meet many intelligent executives and professionals who want to go further than just improvement, they really know what to do and still don’t do it. I often call this the executive and professional “weak-willed dilemma paradox”. Thinking about it, deciding to do something and then not to do it anyway. 

Intelligent people can actually choose for themselves – or can they not? Well, in many cases they are quite capable of making a choice, but then, they still do not take the action they have chosen. What is then going on here?

Every improvement starts with self-insight. There are many uncertainties before, during and even after deciding. This is often driven by uncertainty in the decision and potential loss after making the decision. When uncertainty is registered as ‘insecurity’, one may still want so much, but on the basis of this ‘insecurity’ one will do everything possible to avoid this ‘insecurity’ and not act anyway. Not because they do not “want” to but because they want to avoid “insecurity” at all costs. This form of ‘self-sabotage’ is certainly not conscious, but it is very effective.

From neuroscience it has been known for years that the Amygdala, of which we have two, deeply hidden in both the left and right temporal lobe of the brain, have a stronger permanent negative than positive imprinting cycle. I once described this in more detail in an eBook entitled: “Sales Secrets” (for free available on request).

Let’s take the example of a sales meeting here. For me as an executive coach it is fascinating to see how many executives and professionals are actually struggling with ‘selling’. I find it fascinating but not strange, because I often call selling ‘anti-biological’.

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Johan Reinhoudt

Johan is een voormalige life-sciences executive, oprichter en directeur van Top-Coach en PTSS Voorbij. Hij is de ontwikkelaar van het “True Result™ Executive Coaching 5-Stappenprogramma” (prestatieverbetering), en de “12-weken Coach™” (versneld en blijvend herstel van burn-out).

Dit is executive coaching door een ervaren senior executive en goed opgeleide professionele executive coach, waarbij geavanceerde coaching interventies worden gebruikt. De coaching is daarom dan ook bijzonder geschikt voor executives en professionals die "nu" vooruit willen en die willen investeren in een 1-1 persoonlijk ontwikkelingstraject met blijvende resultaten.

Johan is Master Certified Coach, Effortless Coach en Master Burnout Coach en hij is geaccrediteerd door de Nederlandse Orde van Beroeps Coaches (NOBCO), de Internationale Logosynthese® Vereniging (LIA) en de Internationale Coaching Council (ICC).
Verder is hij geassocieerd met de Europese Mentoring en Coaching Council (EMCC) en de Vereniging voor Uitgebreide Energie Psychologie (ACEP). Hij heeft gedurende de afgelopen twintig jaar vele aanvullende en geavanceerde trainingen gevolgd, waaronder een afgeronde opleiding tot Logosynthese® Practitioner.

Het is Johan ’s missie om met Top-Coach executives en professionals te ondersteunen bij het verhogen van hun persoonlijke prestatie, veerkracht en vitaliteit en daardoor op duurzame wijze bij te dragen aan een gezonde leef- en werkomgeving.

Hij is woonachtig in de regio Utrecht en werkt in een persoonlijk gesprek, live en online met executives en professionals in organisaties door geheel Nederland, maar ook internationaal.

Voor meer informatie kunt u hem vrijblijvend bellen via Tel. 030-200 6761 of e-mailen:

Johan is a former life sciences executive, founder and director of Top-Coach. He is the developer of the "True Result™ Executive Coaching 5-Step Program" (Performance Improvement) and the "12-week Coach™" (Burnout Recovery).

This is advanced executive coaching by an experienced senior executive and well-trained professional executive coach. The coaching is particularly suitable for executives and professionals who want to move forward "now" and who want to invest in a 1-1 personal development proces with permanent results.

Johan is a Master Certified Coach, Effortless Coach and Master Burnout Coach and he is accredited by the Dutch Association of Professional Coaches (NOBCO), the International Logosynthesis® Association (LIA) and the International Coaching Council (ICC).
He is also associated with the European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC) and the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology (ACEP). Over the past twenty years, he has completed many additional and advanced training courses, including a completed training to become a Logosynthesis® Practitioner.

It is Johan's mission with Top-Coach to support executives and professionals to increase their personal performance, resilience and vitality and thereby contribute to a healthy living and working environment in a sustainable way.

He lives in the Utrecht region in the Netherlands and works live and online in a personal conversation with executives and professionals in organisations throughout the Netherlands, but also internationally.

For more information you can call him via Tel.+(31) (0)30-200 6761 or e-mail:

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